Here we are 2017, can you believe it? I certainly find it very difficult to believe it feels like all of a sudden it just fell on my lap and now I’m realizing I’m one year closer to being 40 &^%**!!!!!
Let me tell you something, here’s what I’ve always heard, but never understood until NOW!
I don’t feel like I’m 36, I actually feel like I’m in my 20’s except if I drink a few too many champagne glasses, I end up getting a hangover for 2 days instead of waking up the next day and not feeling a thing like I would when I was younger.Okay, so going back to 2017. Amazing, every year I decide to leave behind what was or wasn’t and just look forward to the future and convincing myself to believe that this year will be better than the last and that I’m one step closer to my goals, dreams and so much more, but there’s also some great lessons that I take with me and here are a few important ones that I’ve learned:
- DO YOU! There’s always opportunities to give, whether it be time, money, love, attention, but there are times when you have to do you and YOU ONLY. This year was difficult for me, but I let go of being at my children’s school 2-3 times a week, I was less present then I have ever been since they started school and the guilt I can’t even begin to tell you, not just guilt, but anxiety and worry about not knowing if my youngest was doing okay, or if she had eaten lunch, so much to worry about. I learned to let go and do me. I started to focus on being at home and doing what I felt like and often it was Netflix and chilling.
- LEAVE THE DRAMA AT THE DOOR. I have a respect for people who are in psychology or any kind of counselors, one of the things I learned about myself this past year is that I take other peoples drama and load it on my already full basket of problems as if they were my own. I realized I’m not the kind of person who can listen to someone’s problems, hang up and then forget abut it, other peoples issues were becoming my own issues and affecting me and my family eventually and so I let go. I can lend an ear, my time and heart to someone who is in need, but if it’s every single time I pick up the phone – I rather not pick up.
- LEAVE REGRETS BEHIND YOU…so this is a lesson you would have thought I would have been awesome at by now, but still I struggle with this. It’s that damn little voice in your head that tells you, you should have, you shouldn’t have, what did you do?, you can’t go back! etc. etc. etc. I messed up quite a few times this year in many areas of my life and guess who was there to remind me, that little voice. I did get better at asking for forgiveness and moving forward trying not to make the same mistakes over and over and if that was good enough for God than it’s good enough for me.
- DON’T BE AFRAID. Que sera sera, what will be will be…that pretty much sums it up. If there’s something out of your control, there’s no point in worrying about it. I know it sounds crazy, specially for women right? What we do is worry, but think about it, if you can’t control it, why worry about it? You can’t live your life worrying about the next big earthquake, but what you can do is prepare yourself for it and live life.
There you have it the four lessons I’m taking with me into 2017. Happy New Year!